Lincolns
lost a son in Springfield (We read
in his Springfield Farewell address, “Here my children have been born, and one
is buried, I now leave, not knowing when, or whether ever I may return. . .”) and
another son, Willie, died one year after they moved into White House. Lincoln
had no problem for Robert to join the army, but wouldn’t let him enlist knowing
Mary was frightened and couldn’t bear losing another son.
Lincoln
found a solution after Robert graduated from Harvard; he wrote a letter to
General Grant, “Please read and answer this letter as though I was not
President, but only a friend. My son,
now in his twenty-second year, having graduated at Harvard, wishes to see
something of the war before it ends. . . .” Robert joined Grant’s staff in late February,
1865. This arrangement alleviated much
of Mary’s anxiety. This may be another
reason why Mary accompanied Lincoln
on the trip visiting Grant at City Point (now Hopewell in VA)
in early April 1865.
If one sees carefully there is a
scene in the movie depicting the relationship between Lincoln
and Robert was not a close one or at least Robert felt he was neglected, which
was indeed true. Robert came home from Boston
looking for his father; Lincoln was
talking to someone and had no time for him. One should pay attention closely how Robert
left the room.
Growing up rarely did Robert see Lincoln
as Lincoln moved from town to town
in Eighth Circuit Court, spending more than half of the time away from home. When he was around he might be busy reading or
making political speech. Robert wrote, “During
my childhood and early youth he was almost constantly away from me, attending
court or making political speeches. In
1859 when he was beginning to devote himself more to practice in his own
neighborhood. . . . I went to New Hampshire
(to attend Phillips Academy
in Exeter) and afterwards to Harvard
College & he became President.”



























